Hello
I wrote a different post yesterday about my mom's (age 77) living situation but multiple people pointed me to a potential Alzheimer's/ dementia case or some other health issues and I do not know how to advocate for her. Would appreciate any advice you may have.
She has a boiler plate advance directive for when she is no longer able of giving health care instructions.
However, today she appears as a healthy elderly lady who can grocery shop and cook. She is able to keep doctors appointments. She can go to the bank/ ATM and withdraw cash... She doesn't clean as much and her place is cluttered but this is an issue of lax personal cleaning standards not Alzheimer's as far as I know because she has always been messy.
Her main issue that is bothersome and disruptive is emotional outbursts.
She has complained about unauthorized entries from her neighbors stealing stuff. Due to her complaints I got her two indoor blink cameras since 2022 but they never capture anything other than her coming and going. She said these cameras are defective. (I have the same brand at my place and they work. If someone moves in front of the camera for 20 seconds the camera may only capture the middle 5 seconds but you will get something).
She would not want to discuss with her primary physician about mental health referrals due to stigma. I would not be surprised if she is anxious/ depressed/ narcissistic. It would be ok if she recognizes her emotional outbursts and attempts to control herself a bit but she appears incapable of doing that. Everything that happens is the result of somebody's else fault and she is perfect.
I have called and left message with her primary physician. They do not return my call, and this is understandable due to HIPAA.
I have asked her to give her doctor authority to discuss her case with me but she refused.
Others in the reddit thread I just posted, and in other online forums in the last few years suggested she may have: alzhemirs/ dementia, paranoia, hyperacusis, hyperosmia, phantom smells... At this point I am not ruling out anything and I would like to have all these causes checked out. I have sent some of these articles to her over the years but she reads and does nothing.
Other than contacting SAIL which is a suggestion from another redditor (I will do that on Monday), what are my additional options/ next steps?
Multiple people also recommended moving her to a nursing home/ independent living/ senior living. How do I even start in this without knowing what health situation she is in and what level of care she requires. Do I just google all "nursing home/ independent living/ senior living in Greater Vancouver area" and call them one by one or is there a social worker/ service that can guide me through this?
Sorry I have lived in Seattle for 20+ years I am not too familiar with Canadian services at this point, except knowing that she has BC health. And would probably qualify for some sort of subsidized assistance based on the fact that she has little income and assets. Any tips you may have for me is appreciated.
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