I know this is a long text, but I really need advice on what to do here.
Here’s a short backstory; Some days ago I had to call an ambulance on behalf of my boyfriend (m23). He was in very severe pain and nausea for the first 2 days he was at the hospital. He has now been in there for 4 days and is much better pain wise but has still been deemed important, so he’s now waiting for an emergency surgery to take place. He’s been waiting for this exact surgery for 2 years and been living everyday with chronic pain.
My boyfriend (E) has been laying in the same room the whole time he’s been in the hospital, a shared 6 bed room with other people. I could finally come to visit him on day 3.
Now I’ll get to the situations that made me angry. Immediately as I sat down by his bed, a very loud laughter erupts from the opposite side of the hallway. Like a really annoying LOUD cackle, sounded as though there were at least 5 people. B said that it had been like that since the morning, also yesterday, and asked me to not complain and just be with him. The people laughing were nurses who either were on a 4-5 hour break (which seems odd??) or they simply had “nothing to do” and decided to sit in the lunch area and talk. I found it so incredibly distasteful and disrespectful that the literal nurses were just sat right next to a hospital room with patients and laughing (loudly).
The other patients in his room were of course not to blame for this (the staff were!) but they all had illnesses that made it very difficult for B to recover and do things such as sleep, eat and literally just exist. There were 2 old men that were constantly soiling themselves, making the room obviously stink which is the last thing you want when you’re nauseous. He couldn’t eat because of this. Didn’t eat for nearly an entire day. We’re talking at least 3 times a day each where the staff had to clean them and change the entire bedding. B had asked for another room (any room) 5 times, but always got the same answer; “no we cannot move patients right now.” During the time I was there on day 3, another old man was admitted. It quickly became clear that he had dementia. During the first day he was mostly just a disturbance (loud snoring, loud shouts, weird noises and being overly talkative) but yesterday something incredibly horrifying happened. Yesterday morning he began running off, thinking the was the doctor and not a patient, going through lockers and stuff like that. But then at 1:00 am i got a text that woke me reading “the old man opened my curtain just now and stood there in silence staring at me for at least 10 seconds before saying good morning to me.” Keep in mind that it was pitch black in the room. B obviously got incredibly scared, and being under the influence of morphine and other medicines just made the experience even more horrifying. B then wrote that he had told him that it wasn’t morning and to go away, causing the man to pace around the room and again- going through lockers. I basically ordered B to press the help button and make a nurse come in there ASAP. The man with dementia had now shat on the floor in the middle of the room. B demanded that they give him another place to sleep, and they said “okay we’ll move you after we’ve cleaned this” and drove B into a private room. It was suddenly THAT easy and there were at least 6 out of 9 empty or near empty rooms available the entire time.
A lot of other things happened, such as nurse being very rude and loud, using the button that controls all lights in the room, making it completely bright in the middle of the night (instead of just pressing the individual light) when fetching things from the cupboard, taking 1,5 hours to bring B a new shirt, etc.
But the fact that they put him in a room with patients who has these types of illnesses whilst the rest of the rooms stood empty was just so selfish in my opinion. It honestly seems like it was simply easier for the nurses to keep all people in one single room.
I live in Sweden, a country known for its modern healthcare. Am I in the wrong for finding this experience report worthy? Keep in mind that he was been waiting for a surgery for 2 years, and that his doctors have made a lot of mistakes, forgetting to inform him of things/call him or book him in for a routine check up and more. He has been forced to call and ask them for a blood sample, even though they were supposed to call him in ages before that.
I’m just so disappointed and angry!
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